Win-Win

Thanks, Scott Noelle, for this easy explination of basically what we refer to as "win-win".


:: Generalizing Desires ::

Suppose your child wants to bounce on your friend's
antique sofa, but you want to respect your friend's
property. The conventional response is to say NO and
block the child's behavior, using force if necessary.

Being unconventional, you ask yourself instead, "How
can we both have what we want?" But these *specific*
desires are incompatible. So you *generalize* one or
both of them by looking for the underlying desires.

For example, your child wants to jump on the sofa
because it feels good to defy gravity. You want to
respect your friend's property because you want to be
a good friend.

Now you can put these more general desires together
and begin to see ways they could fit. Perhaps you
could be a good friend to your child by helping him or
her find another way to defy gravity.

Keep looking deeper and you'll find many, more general
desires that will lead you to an abundant supply of
mutually satisfying choices.

http://dailygroove.net/generalizing

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